My word for this year was “Self”. In 2015, as I became a mother and focused on growing a business out of my blog, I felt I lost myself at point. I felt that while I made it through the year, I lost something along the way and stopped trusting myself or feeling like myself.
My vision for 2016 was to find that again, to find myself again, and to trust my instincts once again.
Did it happen?
Yes! I did take care of myself. I did the full PiYo program in the early spring, which helped me so so much to feel more comfortable in my own skin.
I also stopped listening to all the noise out there regarding how to do this whole business / blogging thing and started trusting myself again a little more. I’ll be honest and say I was a little (really) scare this would mean the doom of my business. In reality, I had one of the best years yet and I am so excited for what’s to come next year (big changes coming and everything!).
Focusing on myself, however, did not mean selfishness.
I was a little hesitant to make “self” my word for the year. It felt just a step away from selfishness, which is not what I wanted at all. However, taking care of myself meant I was able to be a better mother and a better wife. I was happier this year than I was in 2015 and it showed.
Feeling more confident on my business meant I completely stopped working evenings and the weekends. Seems like a big entrepreneur no-no but it was sooo good for me and my family. Did I miss out on some “opportunities”? Sure. But we each have to do what’s best for us and our families.
This year was full of favorite moments. I loved the traveling we did as a family. This year we went to Joplin and Spokane to visit extended family. Joey got to fly for the very first time when we went to Spokane. I was a little nervous about how he’d do but he was AMAZING on the way there and back! Gives me hope for the flight to Germany next year!. We crossed off Cloudcroft and Roswell from our “El Paso Bucket List” and really enjoyed both places!
Finding out Joey will be a big brother was also a big moment this year. Unexpected? Completely. But I can’t wait to see how Joey acts with baby brother and watching him grow into that new role.
Halloween was also a highlight. Last year was too little to understand what was going on at all but this year he got into the costume wearing and we went out and trick or treat on our street. He was a little confused at first but by the end he was saying “treeeeaaat” and pointing to his little bucket for people to put candy in there haha. I also loved how our costumes turned out! We did Zootopia, since that was Joey’s favorite movie this year and we got a lot of compliments!
Like last year I put our costumes together as much as I could. I did Joey’s elephant costume from a pattern I found on Etsy and did my ears + vest. Lance’s costume was almost completely purchased since I found a “Nick Wilde” kit on Amazon for $20!
Christmas this year will definitely be one of the highlights when I look back. The last couple of Christmases haven’t been all that great and there was a tad bit of dread the days leading up to it. I think the dread came mostly from it not really feeling like Christmas. But Christmas morning was great!
Joey was pretty confused about opening presents. We’ve been telling him for weeks not to touch them so when we handed him one and told him to rip it open he looked at us like we were trying to trick him. However, once we realized we weren’t tricking him, he wouldn’t stop opening them.
2017 will be a whirlwind of a year, I already know it! Baby #2 will be joining us sometime in January and I’ll be doing the single mom thing for a little. Then in April we pack all of our things and prepare for the big move to Germany in May.
So while everyone plans, plans, plans for 2017, I feel like I can’t in some ways. I have to just roll with the punches until June-July when we’ll be settling in into our new life abroad. Which is why I’ve decided to make “Grace” my word for 2017.
I will bring in the mentality of “self” from 2016 but will couple it with “grace”. I will aim for grace, not perfection – in my parenting, in my business, in life.
I specifically like these two definitions of Grace –
“the quality or state of being considerate or thoughtful”
“Courteous good will:”
I can already see there will be a lot of room for losing my patience, for feeling less-than. I’m hoping that going in focused on grace will allow me to avoid that as much as possible. I don’t want to be hard on myself and those around me unnecessarily. Which is keeping why the thought of courteous good will, and being considerate, and thoughtful in the forefront seems perfect for next year.
As far as blogging and my business goes in 2017 I have some pretty simple goals –
- Passive Income: Due to all the reasons mentioned above (baby, solo-parenting, international move), I know 2017 will see a lot less client work but mama still needs to pay ’em bills so my focus will be on passive income. This will allow me to contribute to my family financially while focusing on Joey and baby as much as I possible.
- More Slices of Life: I want to bring back more lifestyle like posts into the blog. I did get back to that a little bit in 2016 but I miss lifestyle blogging. The main focus of this space will still be on helping other bloggers with tutorials and such but I feel like there’s something missing from my blog when I leave out slices of life.
- Community: I miss the feeling of community in blogging and want to get back to that. I think bringing back lifestyle posts will help but I also know I need to get back to being better at commenting and getting to know other bloggers.